Up until my first and my current relationship, most of my romantic relationships were pretty much a comprised of a few occasional hookups and the more frequent flirty banter via text. The closest thing we had to being intimate in those relationships was sex. But, now that I'm in an actual relationship, I've learned that there are plenty of ways to be intimate without having sex. Don't get me wrong, Sex is great. And it can still be intimate! But there are plenty of other things you can also do to feel close to another person.
Intimacy Without Intercourse
Here's how to be intimate with zero sex required | Well+Good
There may be many times in your relationship when the thought of sex just leaves you cold. So how can you fan the flame of intimacy when sex is out of the question? When your sex life is taking a back seat for a while, try to find other ways of communicating your feelings with each other as well as other ways of offering your partner sexual fulfillment, if you are able. If you can, try to arrange a regular slot for an evening out together on your own, so you can focus entirely on each other. If you can find a babysitter willing to do the ironing at the same time then all the better. Even fifteen minutes of massage can work wonders. One word of warning though, it is important to find out what kind of massage your partner enjoys and try to adapt your technique to his or her preferences: Some people like harder, deeper massage, and others prefer a lighter touch.
Staying intimate without sex
Sometimes intercourse simply isn't possible. Maybe you just gave birth and haven't healed yet. Maybe you're having problems with painful sex.
Last Updated: February 11, References Approved. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in There are 12 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 1,, times. There are lots of ways that you can be truly intimate with a person that do not include sex.