According to Don and Debra MacLeod's Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex , maintaining the sexual spark is akin to the way we maintain a car: we don't get to do the big check-up, so we do small upkeep to keep the engines running. The car maintenance metaphor is not very inspiring. It lacks poetry. What people want when they complain about the listlessness of their sex lives is to recapture the poetics of sex, the connection, the renewal, the playfulness, the feeling of aliveness, a sense of lifting themselves from the mundane -- not maintenance. All quick fixes, instructions, are intended to save us from our hectic lives.
Mechanics of human sexuality
The Mechanics Of Sex | HuffPost Life
Often, when we talk or think about sexual health, we think about it as simply the absence of disease, infections, or problems. For some of us, just talking about sexual health might feel uncomfortable or embarrassing. Sexual health means more than just the absence of disease or infection. Sexual wellness includes physical, emotional, mental, and social dimensions. The context in which we live our lives and take care of our health also matters. It includes so many different types of topics and conversations. Talking about sexual health can take us from how to have comfortable and enjoyable sex to healthy relationships, gender norms, pop culture, starting a family, and so much more.
Librarians are asked all types of questions, but few must be experts on the clap. Jessa Crispin reports from a sex library, where pustules and excitable virgins are just another part of the job. The Attica prison uprising lasted five days. It took 45 years to get a more or less complete public account of what transpired—and only thanks to the efforts of a few heroically stubborn people. When five million people share your name, your Google-ability is miserably low.
Chris and Charlotte are your guides into the complex terrain of sexuality, and each episode equips you with erotic knowledge and know-how so you can experience more pleasure, joy and connection. Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge.